6 Ways to Get the Most Out of Your Tantric Massage Booking

A tantric massage can be many things: highly sensual, seductive and teasing, intense and absorbing or purely relaxing, depending on the masseuse and what you yourself bring to the booking. That last point is important because the clients who enjoy the best experiences tend to come in with a few important decisions made and an intentional mindset for what they hope to achieve.

This applies whether it’s your first time booking a tantric massage in London or you’re a regular. So, today we’re going to talk about some of our top tips for getting the most out of your tantric massage booking. You won’t be asked to script every minute, have a deep understanding of the philosophies of tantra or act like somebody that you’re not.

Instead, we’re going to discuss how to understand what you want to get out of the experience, how to communicate honestly and respectfully, and how to be present enough to enjoy each aspect of the session.

1. Decide What Kind of Experience You Actually Want

Lots of clients start the process at the wrong stage. They search for a provider and spend some time scrolling through profiles to find someone that they find attractive. Attraction definitely matters in an erotic massage service, but there’s a crucial step that’s been missed here: and that is deciding what you actually want.

As we mentioned before, a tantric massage can take many shapes and deliver different results. Start by asking yourself what you actually need. You might want to switch off fully for an hour after a long day. You might want a slower and more intimate experience. Or you might want to leave feeling energised and sexually invigorated.

These are all different priorities, and each one can determine who you book, what services you ask for and how long your session lasts. Get clear on this first, and every other decision has a direction to work towards.

2. Choose a Masseuse for More Than Her Photos

Now you know what you’re looking for, you can think about who you want to deliver it. Still, it’s important not to get stuck in the trap of only checking a provider’s photos. Taking the time to check the services they offer, the styles of massage they specialise in and learn a bit more about their personality will do far more good than just choosing a pretty face.

If you look at our London tantric massage girls’ profiles, for example, you’ll find that each one comes with a bio that gives you a glimpse into who they are, not just what they look like. Some are flirty and playful, some are seductive and love to tease. Some offer many different massage styles, while others specialise in a handful. So if you know you want to experience a four-hands massage or a nuru massage, it’s even more important to check.

Take the time now to align the goals you set earlier with the masseuse you book, and you’ll instantly improve the experience for yourself.

If you’re curious what a four-handed tantric massage is like, check out our guide here.

3. Picking Between Incall and Outcall

Incall and outcall bookings can produce very different experiences even with the same masseuse. An incall location gives you a clear separation from the rest of your date. You arrive, shower, put your phone away and enter a space that is designed specifically for the session.

An outcall to your home provides more familiarity and convenience, while an outcall to a good London hotel is a perfect middle-ground. One of the best parts about an outcall is that you don’t have to leave when the session is finished and can take the time to readjust to the real world.

With outcalls, it’s not only respectful but beneficial to prepare your space a little before the booking. Make sure it’s clean and tidy, there’s plenty of room, and the place is at a comfortable temperature for both of your sakes.

4. Stop Waiting for the “Main Event”

This is a crucial step and one that many people overlook. We get it, you’re excited, and a big part of why you booked an erotic massage is for the erotic part, but don’t get so focused on the end goal that you don’t allow yourself to enjoy the massage part. Measuring how close you are to the finish line is a surefire way to ruin the relaxation.

The real tip here is to get out of your head and into your body. Be present, enjoy the process and let the relaxation wash over you rather than trying to control it. Pay attention to the temperature in the room, how the warm oil feels against your skin, the changes in pressure as she moves from one body part to another. Let the anticipation build while your body physically relaxes and remember that this is an enjoyable and intentional part of the service.

5. Don’t Rush Straight Back Into Real Life

Give yourself some time after the booking to settle back into the world. If you’ve followed our advice, you should be feeling extremely relaxed when your session finishes, and it’s a good idea to savour this part. Jumping from this part straight into a work call will bring you crashing back down to Earth.

Instead, give yourself at least 20 minutes (an hour is better) to take a shower, drink some water and maybe step outside with no place to be urgently. Taking this time to relax and/or reflect on the experience will only amplify it.

6. Set Your Own Boundaries and Respect Hers

Some people view boundaries as restrictions, but they’re actually designed to remove any uncertainty. Knowing what’s allowed and what’s not means that you can enjoy the experience without worrying whether you need to read signals or work out what you can and can’t do.

Your comfort matters just as much, though. You can and should come with your own boundaries, whether they’re to do with the massage, topics of conversation or privacy. Not only will this make you feel safer to settle into the experience, but it guides your tantric masseuse (who is not a mind-reader) and helps her to deliver the experience that you want.

The most important thing to remember is that you should assume that any explicitly communicated boundaries are set in stone. They’re not barriers for you to try and negotiate your way around. If they do change or loosen, that has to be the uncoerced decision of the person who set them.

It’s a simple rule and one that, if you look at it in the right way, actually improves your overall experience.